GIVE UP ON GIVING UP

I know it sounds kind of ironic that l am telling you to give up on giving up. However when dealing with matters of the heart we sometimes have to give up on giving up.

I cannot count the number of times l have been disappointed in love. Yes that is  the story of my life. You end up thinking that all men are bad. Most might be but remember we come with a duty to repopulate the earth and bore our children about the stories of when we were young.

So now to today's discussion how do you give up on giving up. Here is my advice remember you deserve better. Here are my breaking and picking up steps.

How to deal with heart break

1. Cry cry cry. There are no awards for being strong and brave and locking it all in. You will just scar yourself for life. So people please cry buckets and buckets of tears. Think how much fresher your eyes will look it will compensate for the killer headache you will get.

2. Get angry.
For some people it is not easy to get angry at your ex because you feel you deserve what you got. but whether you were on the right or wrong side get angry and justify yourself. Others might say its not healthy but who cares about others right now this is all about you and no one else.

3. Forgive them.
This is the most important step which most people skip. forgiving someone is realising yourself from the prison bitterness had locked you in. Remember forgiveness is all about you. you accept what happened and learn to live with it. if you cannot forgive on your own you might ask for professional help.

4. Surround yourself with loved ones.
Now it is time to remember that you are lovable and adorable and worth it. Yes sometimes after a bad breakup we need people who will remind us why we are lovable. Their unconditional acceptance will sooth the pain away and you might just find yourself loving.

4. Move on.
After completing all the steps you are now ready for the final one moving on. Yes in the beginning it might seem impossible but soon you will realise that the next step is new adventure. Do not spend your life looking at the closed door because you might just miss new doors opening with even better opportunities.

These are the many different languages of saying No so lets use them to say No to giving up. Finally lets break out the wine and get ready to paint the town ready because we are giving up on giving up .. this is your reward for working hard and moving on. Giving yourself the chance for happiness.

Thank you all loved ones who look through my blog and l will love to hear your comments and your strategies on how to deal with heartbreak. If you have any questions at all about romance and dating don't hesitate to ask. My job and beloved duty is to go around offering unsolicited advice to everyone.

If you love my posts or hate them say it so that l know. You realise you have grown up when you know that no matter how much you learn you shall never know everything.

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HOW TO MAKE YOUR MAN FEEL SPECIAL WITHOUT BREAKING SWEAT.

 “Dating and Relationships: How do I make a guy feel special?”

Well today l have a special treat for all my valued followers. Instead of me writing this article l requested the expertise of a friend who l consider an expert in dating and relationships. He has never steered me wrong yet and l must say sometimes his advice makes me reflect on my actions. Getting angry at my boyfriend because he wanted me to return a necklace l got from a friend who was a guy. I was like whaaaat are you crazy it will be so embarrassing. But after a chat with my friend he made me see that it made my boyfriend uncomfortable looking at me while l was wearing jewellery from another man. His Neanderthal senses kicked up and said “Woman mine. Must protect and keep. Aaargh Aaarrrgggghhhh.” I think that it was running in his mind. 

To today’s guest who will answer the ultimate question for the love birds, “How do l make a guy feel special.”

Making a guy feel special is easy. You will hit yourself in the head for not thinking about it because it is that obvious. Wait for it and please remove any dangerous weapons near you.

He needs only two things to make him feel special just YOU and YOUR TIME.

Ha! It seems really obvious now combine the two together and you have a very happy man in your life. However if it was this simple then everyone would do it. So here are a few ways to light that feeling of warmth in him. WORD OF WARNING BE READY TO BE A SAPPY ROMANTIC.

1.      MAKE HIM A HERO

Yes show him that he is your hero. Once in a while be the damsel in distress yes we know about equality, we know that what a man can do a woman can do better but for your relationship sake be the damsel. It does not have to be something big like saving you from a fire it is simple changing a light bulb which reminds him that he is your hero. He sees a soft side which no one else sees and that makes him feel special.

2.      TOUCH HIS HAIR

It might seem like something small but touching his hair and rubbing the scalp is a big deal. It relieves the tensions of the day and makes him feel loved. Once in a while men want to forget to be the Iron Men of the world and just relax for a small cuddle. For added benefit put his head on your lap it makes it more intimate and loving and differentiates it from the nurse checking his head for lice.

3.      REMIND HIM THAT YOU LOVE HIM

I say it every morning before he goes to work you might argue. Well continue with that but remember to say it when he is stressed and you are really angry him. Say it when he is making a tough decision that you will love him no matter what. Believe me it works wonders. Just a quick message as he is going about his day to remind him of your love.

4.      LEARN ABOUT SOMETHING HE IS INTERESTED IN.

It is not always sports people. You know him so really what does he care about that you don’t. Think of Penny in The big bang theory when he crammed a commentary about what Leonard’s geeky interest in star wars. It earned the title of the Best girlfriend on earth. Shock him one day with an accurate statement about an interest of his. It can be about rugby or something as unusual as hunting butterflies.

Try these tips they work. You will have a happy man and something special to look forward to on your birthday and anniversary.

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IN RELATIONSHIPS WHO SHOULD BE MORE ATTRACTIVE THE MALE OR THE FEMALE

“IN A RELATIONSHIP WHO SHOULD BE MORE ATTRACTIVE THE MALE OR THE FEMALE”

Wow the questions people ask are sometimes really shocking. Yet this is a legitimate question, who should be more attractive? Recently I read an article " beauty isnt about having a pretty face." beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and l agree. Before l go any further would you date an ugly person? Do not lie to and say if she has a good personality even though she has the face like the back of a horse. Remember you are not a martyr and no one is forcing you to be one. If the person is not attractive to you leave them be you are not the last person on earth someone will see their beauty and love them for it.

Now moving on to today’s topic who should be more attractive in a relationship the male or the female. Generally people tend to argue that it is the female. As women we take a lot of pride in our looks and men really love to admire. So this is a win-win situation for everyone involved. As the woman your ego gets a boost every time you receive nice comments and the male gets a boost every time his friends call him a lucky dog. True story in China a man divorced and sued his wife for giving birth to an ugly baby. It turns out the woman had some plastic surgery done which made her easy on the eyes and tricked this guy in to marriage. Sensitive guy ha? Who calls their own kid ugly?

Now that we all agree the female should be more attractive we can leave right, wrong. As l said before looks matter and to be honest no matter how much we evolve there always will. It is not only the woman who is judged on looks men are too. If your girlfriend thinks you are ugly well sorry buddy but l think your days in that relationship are numbered. No one should ever settle for less than they deserve. For a relationship to last you must both think you are equally attractive. You must assume that people are dying for a chance to get your partner. It is healthy competition and possessiveness.

To conclude in a relationship you should both view each other as attractive. Forget society’s criteria on what constitutes an attractive person and instead really look at your partner. Does he/she have most of those qualities you think are attractive? I was going to say all the qualities but who needs perfection in the end perfection becomes boring and stifling. You know you are in love if you can even tolerate the annoying little qualities. Until then here is another cat to cuddle with.

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WHEN YOUR EX DATES SOMEONE LESSER THAN YOU, LESS ATTRACTIVE, LESS OF A CATCH......

"How should I feel about my ex meeting someone new when the new person is less attractive, less well educated, less ambitious and generally less of a catch?"

Reading and browsing online l came across this question. I must admit for a second l was stumped. Not because she calls the new girl less but because we rarely voice out these thoughts. Normally we laugh along our friends and mock the new guy for his lack of taste.

I must admit l asked my friends this question and got a various number of responses. My friend x was really passionate about this question and gave a reply which stood out for me. She said moving on is choosing not to care about him any more, its choosing not to get caught in the same trap it is choosing to be blind to everything that happens to him any more.

I must admit l don't have a much better answer. Acknowledging the fact that we are humans and we cannot control our feelings every second of everyday, l personally think that we should try and move on. Stop concerning yourself about his life and anything that happens to them. For those who watch cheaters l am sure the most important thing we learn is that we need to create distance with our exes and then try and maintain that distance.

Next time l will be discussing the show Cheaters. I will really love to hear more from you about our topic today. Any additions, subtractions, divisions and multiplications. 

For the time being cuddle with this cute kitten it promises never to leave you ever. Meow 

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