HOW TO GET RICH THROUGH BLOGGING A BOOK OF FALSE HOPE.

 the greatest challenge you have ever faced since you started blogging and how you overcame that challenge

Honestly, when l first stumbled across blogging it was through a book in the library. The book was written in capital letters and was titled "HOW TO GET RICH THROUGH BLOGGING". What the book failed to mention was that not everyone got rich blogging and the few that did get rich through blogging made their money by advertising the carrot in front of the donkey so that we are always trying to catch an impossible dream.

Do not get me wrong l am not bitter or angry about how hard this blogging experience has been for me. I am at that sweet spot where l am accepting everything that is happening to me with grace and hopping that just maybe success is following right behind it. 

The greatest challenge l have faced through blogging is the failure to attract a lot of followers. Unfortunately for me l am one of those people who are unable to give up on anything. Believe me it is both a gift and a curse. I have religiously followed all the advice offered by the gurus of blogging and l am still stuck in the same position l was before.

The hardest thing about not being able to attract any followers is that sooner or later you begin to doubt yourself. You begin to question all your great ideas and you start to adopt the writing styles of other bloggers because in your view there are able to achieve something great.

I remember there was a time when l had already given up and had spent months without updating my blog. I stumbled upon another who blogger who said for the first few months no one followed his blog not even his mother. No one was following my blog. I had done everything to encourage my friends including threatening to never speak to them (which was impossible to do) to begging them yet they still did not follow my blog.

However, slowly l started to notice growth in the number of people viewing my blog from my first follower who was a lady l did not know till a large number of people (in my view large is more than 5) started to take notice of my blog and to read my posts.

I overcame this challenge through the only tried and tested remedy which is patience. It is like watching rain droplets fall from the roof to the mouth of a thirsty person. It seems like forever before the rain drop is big enough to fall. If you wait patiently and in the same position for long enough the raindrop shall reach you too. For others it will happen immediately while some might need to wait for years before they can appreciate the number of followers they have.

Believing that it is not the number but the quality of the followers and being able to engage in discussions with them helped me appreciate my blog even more. 

HOW TO GET OUT OF THE FRIEND ZONE

Is the friend zone killing you. Are you getting mixed signals and do not know what to do about it. Don't worry as corny as it may sound the love doctor is here and she has come to tell you that the friend zone does not exist. If you don't want to be in friend zone simply get out. Do not give yourself reasons to stay within the friend zone. Love will kill you.

Others may ask how can l get out but everyone knows the answer to that one make a bold move and stick to it. Declare your feelings don't mumble about your feelings because you will get nothing. Cowards always play it safe the brave ones get both the prize and the glory take a risk for once.

Advice: Bite your nails the night before run around and do everything but try and think about what you are going to do.

LOVING AND SOB STORIES.. IS IT WORTH IT.

Recently l was talking to a friend of mine and l told him of my decision to never date anyone who comes with a sob story and he said l was being childish. Others may agree with him and think l am heartless and mean because it is not the fault of the children from the troubled families.

Well its also my life and l know l would not be able to handle their problems so l made the decision not to be involved wth them. So if l am on a date and someone tells me they were abused as children l kindly say goodbye to them and wish them the best in life. As heartless as it may seen with the rise in the crimes of passion l would like to remain safe thank you. 

There is a thin line between love and hate and it is very easy to cross. I know that people from stable families also have their troubles but l still firmly believe those problems are very much more manageable. Sopeople tell me your views am l being unnecessarily harsh on this group of people who were unfortunate enough to face a tough time when growing up.